Blog Posts, Summer

Time to Take My Own Advice

Learn to lower expectations.

That’s not to say we should lower them to a sedentary life of minimal progress, but more or less manage what you expect from others. You won’t be able to please everyone. You can’t be everyone’s best friend. People will come and go, but you will always be there for yourself. And as much as you would like to, you can’t always change or influence the attitudes of others. Not everyone is you, and oftentimes that’s a good thing. It makes for new and diverse experiences. Allows each of us to change and grow by learning from the actions of others. Although sometimes it can be frustrating.

-When someone else doesn’t complete a task in the way we expect.

-When you finish something, thinking you did a good job, only to find out it was mediocre in comparison to someone else’s standards.

-When life turns out differently than we anticipated.

-When we can’t see the changes that are happening within ourselves, and someone else points out our failures.

Embrace change. Fill yourself with happiness for all that you have accomplished. Teach your mind not to fall victim to your own shortcomings. Readjust, take note of the bar you have set, and aim higher next time. If you didn’t live up to the standards of others in this situation, how did it compare to your personal best? How can you improve? What changes can you make to create a better environment for the next adventure?

Think about these things when you fall short, and don’t just give up. Learn to take constructive criticism in stride, focus on all that you have done thus far, and keep going. You’ve got a long way to go.

Love ya, hugs // ❤

Blog Posts, Fitness, July

Feeling Like Jello, BBG Week 1

So I stuck to all the workouts. For an entire week. Even the Challenge. I’m proud of myself but it takes me back to basketball camp when I was a kid, or Lacrosse tryouts when I was in high school. I distinctly remember saying to my friends and fellow LAX girls, “This is going to kill me, and then they’re going to cut me.” It wasn’t for lack of trying. Just because I wasn’t in shape.

I feel about the same now. I skipped the pre-workouts because I have been going to the gym, albeit sporadically. And I’ve been doing mostly cardio. I know I need the resistance training to build back up muscle mass, but that’s what kills me. The 40-minute LISS and HIIT workouts weren’t too bad this week because I’ve been doing the cardio.

The resistance -> dead. Arms have always been a weak point. I used to be a cheerleader when I was younger and threw girls up into the air. Didn’t have much upper body strength then either. It’s a goal of mine to build that up and tone down my arms. It will certainly be taking some time and dedication.

Legs weren’t too bad, but they weren’t too good either. Those 28-minute sessions are some hard work and will hopefully get easier. But then again, I’ll just sweat more and get stronger.

Abs. I used to be able to do 60 crunches in as many seconds. Now I’m lucky if I can get through half as many. Not that I was at peak performance in high school, but I’ve always been the kid who’s done a sport, ever since I was five. Even younger if you count my short-lived ballet days. Since high school ended, those seasonal sport days are over and boy am I feelin’ it.

With some hard work and dedication, this will turn me into a healthier and fitter version of myself. Just like I did after my week at basketball camp every summer. I would do the same intensive workouts after camp ended, at home. I just wasn’t so good at sticking to them. Hopefully BBG helps me change that. Here’s to you Kayla, and thanks for helping me jumpstart this healthy thing again! #SweatWithKayla

Love ya, sweaty hugs // ❤

P.S. If you were wondering, they didn’t cut me from the team, I made Varsity (but that’s not saying much because we were not epic winners).

Blog Posts, July

Accountability to Myself

Have you ever lost sight of your own goals? Lost your way down the path you’ve set yourself on? Were unsure of your next step?

Well it’s time to reevaluate my choices because I had a mini epiphany this week. I was sitting down to BuJo (more on this in another post) and write out my calendar for August – and was thinking about what’s on my plate right now. How has most of the summer gone by and I feel as though I haven’t accomplished much of anything. All I really have is work, the gym and my personal goals. Work is occupying my brain power during the day since it’s our busy season, and fitness goals could take up a little more of my time, but other than that I’m netflixing and not being so productive for myself.

So I’m changing my perspective. I originally started this blog to share my thoughts with others and write for other people. Now I’m realizing I was wrong or at least doing this for the wrong reasons. I should’ve been writing for myself and about what I love. Yes, I’ve enjoyed branding, design, interior decor and a number of personal hobbies, but now I’m writing from a different perspective. And honestly, it’s always helped me to understand things better by talking (or writing) things out.

I follow a number of fitness bloggers and a few of them have started their own personal blogs lately. It’s inspired me to jumpstart this one again. And use it to hold myself accountable for my own goals through the end of the year. At which point I’ll look at everything again and setup the ever-clichéd new year resolutions. I’m hoping by putting them out here in writing for the time being, it’ll help me be more self-disciplined. So here they are:

  • Take my fitness goals seriously and stick to a schedule. Yes, life happens, and things get thrown out of whack, but that doesn’t mean you need to get thrown out of sorts too. One bad day does not make for a bad week. And this could turn into new opportunities if I put my mind to it. Bottom line, get real with BBG and maybe even start creating your own workouts. Three months of dedication and then reevaluate this one.
  • Decide on my next educational steps. I’ve always struggled through college courses and finding my niche. It’s not that the work is too hard or that I’m not interested in the topics. I just get bored with them too easily and find other things to occupy my time. Am I going to finish and get it over with, taking more time away from work? Slow and steady to finish this degree, or only a class or two at a time? You’ve got less than one month to figure this one out.
  • Stick to this blogging thing and see where it takes me. I dabble in many things because I have many strong suits (humility is apparently not one of them), which leads me struggling to keep doing one thing for too long. I simply get bored and can’t always delegate it to someone else so it falls to the wayside. These are my own thoughts though and I plan on writing for myself, so I need to keep with it even if that means a few posts a week in between (or during) my next Netflix binge.
  • Take control of my savings, spending, and money habits. I need to reign in the reckless impulse buys (i.e. bags and shoes I don’t really need), Starbucks snobbery, school debt, credit card undertaking and take a serious look at my finances. Bottom line is I know what I should be doing, I just haven’t been doing it and get distracted easily by shiny objects!
  • Allocate time for healthier cooking and meal-prepping. I eat fairly healthy a lot of the time, but I could be better. There’s always room for improvement! I was doing much better with this when I had less time with school and work. And I was spending a lot less on excess items then as well. I already knew this, but apparently I need to remind myself that I do better when I’m busier.
  • Focus on what I need, rather than what other people need. This may seem like a kick in the ass, or a little harsh to friends and family, but it’s just what I need. Sometimes that’s all it takes to get you going again – some TLC for yourself. And who else is going to do that other than me.

I think that’s enough goals for now. Time to get to it and update as necessary. If you plan on following along, please leave me your comments and thoughts on the journey ahead!

Love ya, hugs // ❤

Blog Posts

Make lemonade with those lemons.

I ramble. I write. I edit. I wonder. I ponder. I type. I post. I spew words.

It’s not something I was necessarily born with, but rather something that I learned to do. I’ve always been a good, well-practiced writer. Or at least so I’ve been told. It comes fairly easily to me. It’s something that doesn’t take a lot of effort. But I tend to step back from it whenever possible. I see writing, and putting words to paper, as work. It keeps me busy. Occupies my precious time. I’ve always liked being a multitasker and this takes away so much brain power that it needs my undivided attention. Which I don’t like.

It’s always been on my mind though. I’ve considered writing a book. A novel. Trying to get published. Becoming a young author. Maybe even a distinguished one. But that’s a lot of work. And dedication. I’m not sure I have it in me. Hell, I don’t even know if I have it in me to stick with this blogging thing. But I’ve put in the work toward setting up the backend. So I power through. If I don’t like it I can just stop. It can be a piece of me that I can always look back on. The organized chaos of my mind spilled onto the page in the form of ramblings. I’m a legend in my own mind. Or at least that’s what I like to tell myself. Either way, I’ve started this writing thing and am trying to make something of it. Even if it’s just a look into my younger self when I’m middle-aged and trying to figure out where I went wrong (or right) in life.

Read along with me and stick around to see if I can turn those sour lemons into some sweet, refreshing musings.

Love ya, hugs // ❤